A few days ago Gillette came out with an ad that called out the men of the world to do better in their dealings with society. This both caused a plethora of praise and rage directed at the company.
In watching the commentary unfold on Facebook it became apparent that there are many many people who have convoluted ideas as to what toxic masculinity is.
I once again have to touch base on Psychological Centration, to take one salient aspect of a thing and make it all about that one thing. What are some of the centrations done on the ad?:
1. That it shames white men specifically because of the ratio of skin colors on the men in the video.
2. That is shames all men.
3. That all masculinity is toxic.
This video in my perception was about the positive and good side of masculinity. For me the most powerful moment in the video is when a man is about to catcall a woman that is walking by and another man that seems to be his friend holds him back from moving forward and says 'Bro, not cool not cool' And the most powerful part that is spoken of Gillette is the statement "Because we, we believe in the best in men."
The major points I take from the video;
1. That the objectification of all is on its way out.
2. Inclusiveness is on its way in.
3. Reaffirmation that it takes a whole community to raise up a responsible citizen.
4. Sometimes all it takes is a single person's actions to destroy or to mend.
5. Outdated blind acceptance of particle issues are no longer working or valid excuses for poor behavior.
6. That we ought to stand up for what is right.
7. That part of masculinity at large has been and continues to have a toxic affect.
8. That a much bigger part of masculinity is about integrity, accountability, and trying our best to do what is right in each situation.
It's not a call to perfection, but rather a call to admit imperfection and to help one another achieve a greater future. One that recognizes the competency of a person on the basis of the competency and not on gender.
We can do better than we have because the time is ripe for the conversations to be had that will cut deep into the heart of our person in an attempt to remove those parts of us that are failing each other and ourselves. Instant gratification is not a masculine concept, it's a human frailty that needs to be dealt with.
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Friday, December 21, 2018
The Autistic Yogi Reflects on Love and its Challenge...
Love.
What a profound and confusing feeling.
How mythologies have shaped our view of love and for many, that has made the feeling intangible, even mystical. Escaping so many, it becomes a view as a sensation for things. Like loving coffee, sleep, cars, or any other object or thing.
Love seems to convey a consistent feeling about a person, place or thing, a sensation that hardly changes, and if it does change, it is but a mere moment in the movement of time.
Love produces the most immense actions and without a sense of its depths and capacity, it can incite people to act on what appears to be anything but love.
How many people unable to escape the clutches of love have felt the tinge of insanity and a cascading rage move through them, only to realize those actions work counter to love and set up a feeling of unworthiness and self-hatred. Such feelings lead people to act contrary to their good nature and is the foundation for such sayings as 'The road to hell is pathed in good deeds'.
The biggest challenge that love faces in the human race is that of adult psychological centration. The human mind is limited in its capacity to intake and output information so it will consistently fall short and if a person is not careful it can rob them of their sensibility and lead them to act on a limited centrated point of view.
Love combined with adult psychological centration is the leading cause of faulty points of view and condemnation where it does not belong. The saying 'love is blind' is born from the experience of acting on love that has been narrowly viewed and acted upon in that narrow viewpoint. Without the capacity to pause in the moment and deeply question whether psychological centration is happening than we are likely to act in a manner that a 2 or 3-year-old would act, and when we put those types of actions into an adult body there is a destructive force, a lack of good decisions based on knowledge and an abundance of decisions made irrationally and spontaneously like a rattlesnake biting a branch of a tree that moves from the wind. Maybe even like throwing gasoline on a fire in an attempt to dose it.
When there is an attempt to walk with another in love it can be the most fantastic of feelings yet can lead to one of the most terrible feelings we could possibly experience.
What a profound and confusing feeling.
How mythologies have shaped our view of love and for many, that has made the feeling intangible, even mystical. Escaping so many, it becomes a view as a sensation for things. Like loving coffee, sleep, cars, or any other object or thing.
Love seems to convey a consistent feeling about a person, place or thing, a sensation that hardly changes, and if it does change, it is but a mere moment in the movement of time.
Love produces the most immense actions and without a sense of its depths and capacity, it can incite people to act on what appears to be anything but love.
How many people unable to escape the clutches of love have felt the tinge of insanity and a cascading rage move through them, only to realize those actions work counter to love and set up a feeling of unworthiness and self-hatred. Such feelings lead people to act contrary to their good nature and is the foundation for such sayings as 'The road to hell is pathed in good deeds'.
The biggest challenge that love faces in the human race is that of adult psychological centration. The human mind is limited in its capacity to intake and output information so it will consistently fall short and if a person is not careful it can rob them of their sensibility and lead them to act on a limited centrated point of view.
Love combined with adult psychological centration is the leading cause of faulty points of view and condemnation where it does not belong. The saying 'love is blind' is born from the experience of acting on love that has been narrowly viewed and acted upon in that narrow viewpoint. Without the capacity to pause in the moment and deeply question whether psychological centration is happening than we are likely to act in a manner that a 2 or 3-year-old would act, and when we put those types of actions into an adult body there is a destructive force, a lack of good decisions based on knowledge and an abundance of decisions made irrationally and spontaneously like a rattlesnake biting a branch of a tree that moves from the wind. Maybe even like throwing gasoline on a fire in an attempt to dose it.
When there is an attempt to walk with another in love it can be the most fantastic of feelings yet can lead to one of the most terrible feelings we could possibly experience.
Wednesday, December 19, 2018
The Autistic Yogi Reflects on Psychological Centration...
Psychological Centration
“In psychology, centration is the tendency to focus on one salient aspect of a situation and neglect other, possibly relevant aspects. Introduced by the Swiss psychologist Jean Piaget through his cognitive-developmental stage theory, centration is a behaviour often demonstrated in the preoperational stage” Wikipedia
The aspect of centration in our adult lives from the basic citizen up to the highest levels of government is very real. While mostly harmless it can be extremely harmful and makes many many people make decisions based on a faulty premise.
The place that some of the most harmful centration is caused is in the doctor's office, including psychiatrists and psychologists. The problem can differ from practitioner to practitioner, usually depending on years of practice and experience and acknowledgment of personal centration and the degree to openness to new ideas that may make better sense than previously held ideas.
The place that some of the most harmful centration is caused is in the doctor's office, including psychiatrists and psychologists. The problem can differ from practitioner to practitioner, usually depending on years of practice and experience and acknowledgment of personal centration and the degree to openness to new ideas that may make better sense than previously held ideas.
The experienced practitioner that has not acknowledged their own centration is likely to base opinions about their clients on memory of other clients and take things out of context concerning those clients and what previous professionals have written into the clients file, if the practitioner believes that they are extremely capable of discerning the psychological aspects and reasons for experience and action of their clients they are very likely to base their opinion on one salient aspect of that client's life, which is absolutely not helpful and can lead to dangerous arrangements for the clients mental and physical well being and to further entrench that professional in their personal centration.
The new practitioner that has not had much experience in practice and has not looked specifically at their personal centration is likely to commit centration on the aspect of either the books they learned their practice from or from their mentors.
Our senses limit us in how much information we can take in at any given moment. Trying to understand another human being and from what motivation they act is limited by purely inward senses and aspects. Namely memory and we attempt to couple that with what we are hearing and seeing about the particular individual in front of the practitioner.
The new practitioner that has not had much experience in practice and has not looked specifically at their personal centration is likely to commit centration on the aspect of either the books they learned their practice from or from their mentors.
Our senses limit us in how much information we can take in at any given moment. Trying to understand another human being and from what motivation they act is limited by purely inward senses and aspects. Namely memory and we attempt to couple that with what we are hearing and seeing about the particular individual in front of the practitioner.
Through 25+ years of being a client in the mental health system, it is my consistent experience that practitioners are given to judging books by the cover and neither have the willingness nor desire to actually read the contents from within. This is not across the board but is to a very high degree the mentality that permeates our highest professionals. Rare is the person who in practice attempts to see the whole picture before casting judgment and giving a sentence of how to deal with that judgment.
Centration seems to compel us humans to mistrust one another to a high degree. Centration is the leading cause to all forms of segregation, be it racism, ableism, sexism, xenophobia, etc.
Centration is the leading cause to individuals being so easily swayed by propaganda. When someone holds a belief, especially in the area of what their government ought to be doing for them or their community at large it is really easy to produce a small portion of information that they would believe to be true because of the centration they have on a given topic, this is the way of propaganda and the easiest way to set people at odds.
Centration is the easiest way to cause cognitive dissonance. And it is a human desire to get away from what caused cognitive dissonance so its easier to conform to psychological centration.
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